Gottman Therapy In Chicago, IL

Rebuilding Intimacy, friendship, and sexual Connection


Relationships are hard work. There can be fighting about money or big decisions, co-parenting tensions, issues in the bedroom, tension with extended families — and over time, you can lose your connection, trust, communication and sense of partnership. But with some genuine effort and research-based therapy, such as Gottman Therapy, couples can replace negative patterns with positive and loving interactions, repair past hurts and deepen their emotional connection to build a successful, lasting relationship.

Rebuild Intimacy, Friendship And Sexual Connection With Gottman Therapy Approach

What Is Gottman Therapy?

Gottman Therapy, also known as the Gottman Method, is a form of couples therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is a research-based approach that focuses on strengthening relationships and improving communication between partners. The Gottmans identified key factors that contribute to successful relationships and those that can lead to relationship distress (including criticism, defensiveness, withdrawing and contempt). The therapy approach combines this research with practical interventions to help couples develop healthier patterns of interaction. The goal of Gottman Therapy is to help couples build a foundation of trust, intimacy and mutual understanding. And who doesn’t want that in their relationship?

Who Benefits From Gottman Therapy?

Gottman Therapy is beneficial for couples at various stages of their relationship, including dating, engaged or married couples. It can also be helpful for couples facing challenges such as frequent conflicts, communication breakdowns, infidelity, and issues related to intimacy or trust. It is also helpful for couples who are simply looking to better understand and deepen their relationship.

What to Expect in Gottman Therapy

We do testing at the beginning of treatment to determine exactly where the tough spots are in your relationship and what precise skills we can teach you to best help. Whether it’s recovering from an affair, dealing with baby blues or reconnecting with your sexual heat, we can help.

In Gottman Therapy, you can expect the following:

  • Assessment: Your therapist will conduct a thorough assessment of the relationship using the Gottman Relationship Checkup or other assessment tools. This helps the therapist gain a comprehensive understanding of the strengths and areas of concern in your relationship.
  • Building friendship and intimacy: The therapist will guide you both in building a strong foundation of friendship, fostering emotional connection and enhancing intimacy. This includes exercises and techniques to improve communication, empathy and understanding.
  • Conflict management: You’ll learn effective strategies for managing conflicts and disagreements in a healthy and constructive manner. The therapist will teach both of you skills such as active listening, compromise and negotiation to help you resolve conflicts without damaging the relationship.
  • Developing shared goals and values: You and your partner will work together to identify and clarify your shared goals, values and aspirations. This process helps you align your visions for the future and strengthen your sense of partnership.
  • Enhancing intimacy and passion: Your therapist will address issues related to physical intimacy, emotional intimacy and the overall quality of your intimate relationship. Techniques may include exercises to increase emotional connection and reignite passion.
  • Homework and practice: You and your partner will be given exercises and homework assignments to practice the skills learned in therapy outside of the sessions. This helps reinforce the therapeutic progress and promotes lasting change.

We know each couple has unique needs and goals, so a Gottman therapist will tailor the therapy to address the specific challenges and dynamics of your relationship. Our therapists who specialize in Gottman Therapy can help create a safe space for you and your partner to turn toward each other instead of away from each other, manage conflict, build trust, and renew your commitment to each other and the relationship.

Reach out to us to learn more and start building the relationship you both deserve.

Gottman REsources

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Gottman's classic book on marriage and long term relationships.

The Relationship Cure

Great skills for relationships of all kinds.

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