Relationships are hard work. There can be fighting about money or big decisions, co-parenting tensions, issues in the bedroom, tension with extended families — and over time, you can lose your connection, trust, communication and sense of partnership. But with some genuine effort and research-based therapy, such as Gottman Therapy, couples can replace negative patterns with positive and loving interactions, repair past hurts and deepen their emotional connection to build a successful, lasting relationship.
Gottman Therapy, also known as the Gottman Method, is a form of couples therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is a research-based approach that focuses on strengthening relationships and improving communication between partners. The Gottmans identified key factors that contribute to successful relationships and those that can lead to relationship distress (including criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt). The therapy approach combines this research with practical interventions to help couples develop healthier patterns of interaction. The goal of Gottman Therapy is to help couples build a foundation of trust, intimacy and mutual understanding. And who doesn’t want that in their relationship?
Gottman Therapy is beneficial for couples at various stages of their relationship, including dating, engaged or married couples. It can also be helpful for couples facing challenges such as frequent conflicts, communication breakdowns, infidelity, and issues related to intimacy or trust. It is also helpful for couples who are simply looking to better understand and deepen their relationship.
We do testing at the beginning of treatment to determine exactly where the tough spots are in your relationship and what precise skills we can teach you to best help. Whether it’s recovering from an affair, dealing with baby blues or reconnecting with your sexual heat, we can help.
In Gottman Therapy, you can expect the following:
We know each couple has unique needs and goals, so a Gottman therapist will tailor the therapy to address the specific challenges and dynamics of your relationship. Our therapists who specialize in Gottman Therapy can help create a safe space for you and your partner to turn toward each other instead of away from each other, manage conflict, build trust, and renew your commitment to each other and the relationship.
Reach out to us to learn more and start building the relationship you both deserve.
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There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples notice shifts after 12–20 sessions, while others continue longer, depending on what feels most helpful. At Best Therapies, your therapist will collaborate with you to set a pace that honors your relationship’s needs.
Yes, many couples find that Gottman therapy helps them reconnect, communicate with more ease, and build trust that lasts. It’s a structured yet compassionate approach that meets you where you are.
Absolutely. Gottman therapy is a great way to build a solid foundation before marriage. You’ll explore key relationship skills like navigating conflict, sharing needs, and staying emotionally connected so you can begin this next chapter feeling grounded and prepared.
You don’t need to show up perfectly polished. Simply reflecting on what’s been coming up lately such as challenges, patterns, or even moments of joy can be a great place to start. If your therapist suggested exercises between sessions, reviewing them can help deepen the work.
Fees depend on the length and frequency of sessions. We’ll talk through cost and insurance options before you begin, so there are no surprises. At Best Therapies, we’re committed to keeping conversations about pricing honest and accessible.
Best Therapies offers Gottman-based couples therapy in Chicago, and we’d be happy to connect you with a clinician who is a good fit. Just reach out, our team is here to help.
Of course. We welcome and affirm all relationships. Gottman therapy focuses on trust, communication, and connection; principles that matter in every kind of partnership. Our therapists offer a nonjudgmental space for couples of all identities.
